Kathryn de Bruin

"It is the essential nature of man to play." Plato  

We think of play as just for fun, and yet for a child - play is essential. Every child should be given the opportunity to play, because play is a child's language. There are no limits to communication when a child is at play-- because the child isn't limited to the words that they can speak. Instead children communicate through re-enactments on toys, and through fantasy play at various ages.

When a child is playing - a child is at work; at work discovering the world, and discovering themselves. Through play, children are stimulated socially, emotionally, cognitively, morally and spiritually. Play enhances a child's development. Play not only aids children in developing to their full potential, but is the medium through which children work through difficult experiences. It is in playing freely that a child begins to process inner experiences, makes sense of loss and works through trauma.

What is a Play Therapist?

A play therapist uses a playroom with developmentally appropriate toys and equipment. A safe and accepting atmosphere is created that encourages a child to explore and work in. The therapist reflects the child's efforts to grow and develop and notes the changes that occur. Playing in the presence of a safe person is healing. The child is given the complete and exclusive attention of the therapist during the session. This leads to the child experiencing themselves as worthwhile and likeable, which is the key ingredient to good adjustment with self and others.

How do I know if my child needs Play Therapy?

Play Therapy is not an intrusive approach, and so is not harmful. It can only benefit children because it encourages play, and children grow on many different levels when they play. Play Therapy can be used to boost growth and as a preventative measure, or it can be used when a child is exhibiting symptoms of a behavioral, social or emotional nature.

How do I prepare my child for Play Therapy?

Children generally enjoy playing, and so coming to the playroom is a special experience for them. Let your child know that they get to play with a special person named Kathryn, in a special play room. This will often suffice. Should your child want to know more, let them know that everyone goes through difficult times, and you've noticed this has been the case for your child, and during such times, it helps to have a special place to go just to play. Let your child know that you have no expectations from them about what they do or say during the playtime. This is their very own special time.

Can I learn to play in a therapeutic manner with my child?

Absolutely. Talk to me if you would like to learn the basics in setting up a special playtime with your child, and I will coach you in the philosophy of this approach. It is a little like learning a new language--once you can speak it you have access to a new world of understanding. I believe that the quickest way to build a secure relationship with your child is through play. Since a child's world consists of games and play and fun, you enter their world when you play with them. This is perceived as quality time by your child, when you play with them, and particularly one-on-one. This fills a child's love tank and builds relational bonds.

PLAY THERAPY HELPS CHILDREN TO:

• Achieve developmental tasks

• Sail through life transitions

• Develop creativity and social skills

• Increase confidence and mastery over life

• Develop emotional intelligence

• Process confusing experiences

PLAY THERAPY FOSTERS SOLUTIONS TO:

• Bullying, biting and temper tantrums

• Depression, shyness and anxiety

• Thumbsucking, nailbiting and bedwetting

• Aggression, sibling rivalry and acting out

• Sexualized behavior and ADHD